Custody

In addition to divorce, my family law practice includes helping parents determine Support and develop long term parenting solutions. Whether court ordered through litigation or agreed to in mediation you can rest assured your rights along with what is best for the children will be my main focus.

Our children are the most precious and valuable things on this earth & therefore most of us would do anything to keep them safe. Many times when couples divorce they end up fighting for months & spending thousands on legal fees.

Custody

As a San Antonio Attorney I know first hand how difficult even minor disagreements can be. For this reason I always a recommend an agreed parenting plan that puts the children’s needs first.

I want to be blunt, when it comes to custody the only thing that matters is that the children see both parents as much as humanly possible. They didn’t ask for the breakup, and each parent should accept that they have a responsibility to ensure the other parent spends every moment possible with their child/children.

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As a San Antonio Attorney I know first hand how difficult even minor disagreements can be. For this reason I always a recommend an agreed parenting plan that puts the children’s needs first.

Custody Issues Can Leave All Parties Involved Emotionally Damaged

Agreed Parenting Plan: Many couples understand that minimizing the impact on the kids is their main responsibility. For this reason through legal representation develop an agreed parenting plan that outlines custody, visitation, holiday schedule, summer vacation schedule, grandparents visitation & even where the children will attend school. An agreed parenting plan is always the best situation for all parties involved.

Court Ordered Parenting Plan: Through litigation the family law courts will determine the custodial and non custodial parent along with a visitation schedule. Situations like this usually have the harshest impact on the children. Their lives are usually turned upside down because the courts decided what is in the children’s best interest instead of responsible parents. You can’t blame the courts for stepping in to resolve lingering issues. I always advise my clients to mediate and negotiate an agreed parenting plan but when/if litigation is required you can rest assured that I’m ready to fight.

Custody Issues Can Leave All Parties Involved Emotionally Damaged

Custody Agreement & Equal Rights

I hear the same thing day after day that the mother will get custody and the father has no choice at all. Well that couldn’t be further from the truth because every single day in divorce court we help father’s establish their equal parenting rights and adjust their support obligation.

Below I will quickly go through a couple of scenarios that I often run into when dealing with custody:

Returning from active duty & the custodial parent will not allow 50-50 custody because he/she believes the other parent doesn’t have the right.

Answer: The courts will quickly approve a modification returning active duty members returning home. This is common & we can help you develop a detailed parenting plan.
I never see my child, and my ex will not allow visitation.

Answer: You have rights, the right to see your son or daughter and should call our office immediately. In some situations we are able to request an emergency hearing in Family Law courts.
I agreed to reduced visitation during my break up & want more time.

Answer: This is common, and the courts are always willing to work with parents seeking more time with their children if the reasons are valid.

Custody Agreement & Equal Rights

Below I will quickly go through a couple of scenarios that I often run into when dealing with custody:

Returning from active duty & the custodial parent will not allow 50-50 custody because he/she believes the other parent doesn’t have the right.

Answer: The courts will quickly approve a modification returning active duty members returning home. This is common & we can help you develop a detailed parenting plan.
I never see my child, and my ex will not allow visitation.

Answer: You have rights, the right to see your son or daughter and should call our office immediately. In some situations we are able to request an emergency hearing in Family Law courts.
I agreed to reduced visitation during my break up & want more time.

Answer: This is common, and the courts are always willing to work with parents seeking more time with their children if the reasons are valid.

Sec. 153.001. PUBLIC POLICY. (a) The public policy of this state is to:

assure that children will have frequent and continuing contact with parents who have shown the ability to act in the best interest of the child;
provide a safe, stable, and nonviolent environment for the child; and
encourage parents to share in the duties of raising their child after the parents have separated or dissolved their marriage.

(b) A court may not render an order that conditions the rights of a conservator to possession of or access to a child on the payment of child support.

I could spend all day going through various equal rights scenarios, instead call (210) 865-0711 & speak to an experienced San Antonio Attorney about your specific situation & the goals you want to achieve.

Sec. 153.001. PUBLIC POLICY. (a) The public policy of this state is to:

assure that children will have frequent and continuing contact with parents who have shown the ability to act in the best interest of the child;
provide a safe, stable, and nonviolent environment for the child; and
encourage parents to share in the duties of raising their child after the parents have separated or dissolved their marriage.

(b) A court may not render an order that conditions the rights of a conservator to possession of or access to a child on the payment of child support.

Grandparents Have Custody Rights

The only thing that will impact the children more than watching their parents go through divorce is losing contact with grand parents. Grand parents serve an important role in the development of our youth. For this reason we always spend the time to discuss plus include protections for grandparent visitation in the custody agreement.

Another reason why family law court orders for grandparents are included in the parenting plan is when one or both parents are active military. Planning for deployment & where plus who will take care of the children during your deployment can turn into a complicated fight.

Planning ahead, getting all parties to agree with a strict contingency plan is the wisest way to plan for short-term and long-term parenting by grandparents.

If you have questions or concerns about your current grandparent rights we have the San Antonio Attorney to layout all of your option plus thoroughly analyze your current situation with both grandparents.

Planning ahead, getting all parties to agree with a strict contingency plan is the wisest way to plan for short-term and long-term parenting by grandparents.

Custody Arrangement Will Minimize Impact On Children

When a couple decides to divorce or end a marriage that has been blessed with children all parties involved must do everything possible to minimize the impact on them. Fighting, arguing, keeping the kids from one another are all things that will impact your children for many years.

For this reason a detailed custody agreement is needed, parents with kids should work together, put their differences aside & find common ground. This is in the best interest of the children. If the support situation requires a fight, you should hire the best San Antonio Attorney you can afford. Family Law can be challenging , but I can help!

This is a study on the emotional impact stress has on kids & I found interesting:

Kids showing signs of social withdrawal are more susceptible to parental influences than others. These children were also more prone to distress caused by the impacts of guilt-inducing parenting.

Custody Arrangement Will Minimize Impact On Children

This is a study on the emotional impact stress has on kids & I found interesting:

Kids showing signs of social withdrawal are more susceptible to parental influences than others. These children were also more prone to distress caused by the impacts of guilt-inducing parenting.

The researchers of a University Finland followed up about 300 children across the first three years of primary school and monitored the children’s social skills and problem behaviors. At the same time, mothers’ and fathers’ parenting styles were assessed.

The results showed that children showing signs of social withdrawal in kindergarten were more prone to parental impacts later on in school than others. For example, a low level of maternal affection was evident as an increased level of conduct problems among socially withdrawn children in particular. These children were also more prone to the impacts of guilt-inducing parenting deployed by mothers and fathers: guilt-inducing parenting of either parent increased internalized distress and depressive symptoms clearly more among socially withdrawn children than among other children.

On the other hand, the results surprisingly showed that guilt-inducing parenting deployed by mothers decreased the conduct problems of socially withdrawn children. The researchers suggest that children showing signs of social withdrawal may have a heightened risk of pleasing their parents at the cost of their own well-being.

In guilt-inducing parenting, a parent tries to impact on the child’s behavior using psychological means rather than direct limit setting. For example, the parent may remind the child how much effort he/she makes for the child or show how ashamed he/she is because of the child’s behavior. In previous research, this kind of parenting has been related to increased anxiety and depressive symptoms among children and adolescents.

The study was funded by the Academy of Finland and the Alli Paasikivi foundation. The study will be published (online version already available) in highly recognized Â Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry.

Moving Out Of State

One of the most complicated custody issues or something that complicates a divorce is when one spouse/parent decides to move to another city or state. In San Antonio we have a lot of military parents that after the break up decide to move back home.

Along with our growing business community there are countless reasons for families to move here. When you have moved hundred or thousands of miles from your family & looking at rebuilding your life as a single parent the idea of moving home becomes very attractive.

The family law courts understand this & we have helped thousands of families develop a plan that takes into account or modify their current agreement that benefits all parties involved. Just because the courts can understand your reasons for the request, that doesn’t mean you don’t need an experienced San Antonio Child Custody Attorney to represent you.

Truth is that only an experienced legal professional like myself will be able to quickly resolve disagreements like this.